Titas de Bacolod

Dear Tita,

When I was 18 years old, I was madly in love with my boyfriend, Joey, who was 16 years old. We had to meet in secret because our parents were very strict and they didn’t approve of our relationship.

Because we were so young, we forgot ourselves and before we knew it, I missed my period. Joey got scared when I told him and he even accused me of playing around with other men. I was very hurt with his accusations because he was the only one I gave myself to. My parents were very angry when they learned of my situation. I told my mother what Joey’s reaction was, and she warned me to never have anything to do with him again.

My mother took me to Miag-ao, Iloilo, where I stayed during my pregnancy and gave birth to my baby boy, Sammy. After a few months, we came back to Bacolod and my mother told everyone that she adopted the son of her cousin. Sammy grew up not knowing that I was his mother. One day, a friend of mine introduced me to Dave, an Australian she had met on the Internet.

Soon, Dave and I became good friends and before long, he courted me. I accepted him and we began talking about getting married. I knew I was in love with him but I was scared to tell him that I had a love child. Last December, Dave came to visit me and meet my family. He also met Sammy and took him with us when we went out. Dave asked permission from my parents to marry me and they gave their okay. Before he left for Australia, he asked me to prepare all my papers so we could get married by November this year.

I am now in a quandary. I know that I would have a happy future with Dave as he is loving and so responsible. He even bought a house for us to live in Melbourne. I want to tell him about Sammy but my mother said I better keep it a secret or it might spoil everything.

Please help me.

SO CONFUSED

Dear So Confused,

The problem here is, if Dave finds out the truth one day, he might resent that you kept it from him all this time. His trust in you will be totally shattered. Trust is a very delicate thing that should be kept unspoiled by lies and half-truths.

You should have been totally honest with him when he came to visit. He would have respected and loved you more for it. The way it is now, you will always be afraid that he might find out how you duped him.

Don’t you think you should be honest before you marry him?

TITA

Primo Esleyer in his column, Feedback, had this to say the other day. 

Sugar industry diversification

International Sugar Organization Executive Director Dr. Peter Baron was in Bacolod recently and met the leaders of the sugar industry at a dinner at the residence of NFSP President Nene Rojas.

Baron has shown he has a good grasp of the Philippine sugar industry. And he is right, the industry has a bright future. And he is also right that the industry lacks government support. Sugar world consumption is increasing by 3.5 million tons a year.

He also saw the problem of our sugar industry’s lack of the economy of scale with many landholdings at an average of some two hectares per planter.

The industry cannot expect to be efficient in its operation this way.

So, he said, one solution is for the sugar industry to go full blast in diversification.

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It is in diversification that I doubt if this can be achieved. Since many years ago, the word diversification has been overused. It is a theme everybody always mentioned when prices were low.

I recall in the 60s when then NFSP President Jose Mapa “Buchoy” Gomez took over the leadership of the planters, he already advocated for diversification and had it in his farms in La Castellana.

Because of the good price of sugar nobody paid it attention. The price of sugar was good and it was not an economic advantage to plant rice or corn in the place of sugarcane.

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But the sugar market is also erratic. When prices were bad people talked of diversification. Then when prices improved, they forgot the diversification idea.

I recall there was a time when the price was bad and many went into putting up candy factories, knowing that candies were more profitable.

But when the price improved they abandoned the candy factories. Many lost big investments in their candy ventures.

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Then discussions had been on ethanol to be produced instead of sugar. But our ethanol projects never got off the ground yet.

Especially now when no less than ISO said sugar has a bright future. Who will diversify?

On record world sugar price has its ups and downs every five years. So, the wise planters watch the cycle.

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Dr. Peter Baron is right when he said what is needed here is government intervention.

Unless government controls production and marketing, diversification will just be a hollow catchphrase. It can never take off.

I bet my five centavos, we can not succeed in diversification until government changes the structure of our sugar industry.

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There is also the idea of block farming. Planters get together and form a bigger plantation size to avail of the economy of scale.

This too was discussed and argued but never succeeded. Planters are individualistic. Besides small planters have not been used to working in corporate forms of business.

One solution to have planters take advantage in getting the best price is to have a single selling, single buying scheme.

This also did not materialize. The problem has been who would run the business? It looks like not so many planters trust fellow planters.

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One solution is to dismantle the comprehensive agrarian reform program and allow planters to sell their small farm to one who can operate it efficiently.

And have a single selling, single buying group to avail at the best price for our sugar and in the purchase of farm inputs like fertilizer.

But all these failed in the past. There’s no possibility this can be corrected unless there is revision of our laws.

Behind the Scenes with Ivy Visitacion

Something very special happened in Negros recently. The Faith Academy Choir, composed of teenaged students from abroad, visited some of the cities of our province and enthralled the audiences with their brilliant performance of inspirational, Gospel and Christmas songs, bringing a message of faith and hope during the Christmas season.
 

Like a breath of fresh air, the good-looking, wholesome and very friendly teen-agers, most of them children of missionaries from different states in the USA , swept us off our feet with their singing talents and energy. They reminded us of the stars in the popular Disney movie, “High School Musical”, which went over big with the younger crowd. They performed all over – in schools, plazas, etc., and they wowed the crowds wherever they appeared. Each time they performed, some of them would talk about how they found their relationship with the Lord, prompting someone in the audience to whisper, “Why, they are really the singing ambassadors of the Lord”!

They also performed for the Cebu Institute of Medicine Alumni Association of Negros Occidental, during their Christmas party at L' Fisher Hotel. The president of the association, Dr. Ver Lacson, was so impressed by their performance that he gave a dinner for them at his residence that weekend.

Arriving at the doctor's posh home, the teenagers were entranced with the ten towering Christmas trees all over his house. They also enjoyed the sumptuous dinner specially prepared for them and the rest of their group. After the delicious feast, the youngsters held a jamming session and really let their hair down amidst laughter and shrieks of good-natured ribbing. Even their musical director, Dan Eyestone, was forced to perform together with Pastor Gary Visitacion, head of the delegation. Amidst the revelry, I got a call on my cellphone from Mayor Bing Leonardia, inquiring if the group was still at the party.

When I said yes, he accepted my invitation for them to come over and in a few minutes Mayor Bing arrived with wife Elsa. The choir immediately held an impromptu mini-concert for the couple, which they appreciated very much. The very cute “baby” of the group, blond and blue-eyed Aly Phillips, made such an endearing impression on Mayor Bing and Elsa. It was an evening to remember indeed and the group told us how much they enjoyed their visit here.

Bravo, FAITH ACADEMY CHOIR!*

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