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Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Dear Tita : My brother is gay

Dear Tita,

I am a college student in one of the universities here. We are a very close family with my parents and four siblings – two girls and two boys. My problem concerns my brother Gino, our youngest, who is in high school. He is the cutest, so good-looking, clean-cut and lovable. Growing up, he was very close to my sister Emma and me, and we were over-protective with him. He wasn’t as close to our brother, Roy, who is very much into sports. Gino didn’t go for the rough and tumble of basketball and taekwondo which Roy loved.

I never suspected anything amiss until recently, when Gino came home with his shirt torn and his nose bleeding. We were so concerned that I immediately decided to investigate. It was then I found out that the boys in his school were picking on Gino because they called him “Agi! (gay).” I was shocked. I tried to observe Gino closely and I started seeing things that almost confirmed my suspicions. I told Emma about it and she, too, said she noticed the same things.

I don’t know how to tell our parents as I know our Papa would be shocked if he found out. Is there a cure for homosexuality?

CONCERNED SISTER

Dear Concerned Sister,

I am not aware of any cure for homosexuality. But I do know that a lot of gays are very successful in their careers. They are usually artistic and talented. And they are the most enjoyable companions you could have. I have a lot of gay friends whose company I do enjoy very much. The minute they are around, we inevitably start laughing and having the time of our lives.

This is a different world we are living in. People nowadays are more understanding and compassionate toward gays. I suggest you sit down with your parents and tell them what you know. It won’t be easy but that’s what families are for – to stick together in good times and bad. Gino might still make you proud of him one day.

TITA

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Monday, July 18, 2016

After Going Viral with 90 Thousand Views, Titas de Bacolod Opens Up "Hey Tita!"

#heytita, Issues

Tita did not expect the virality of yesterday's open letter of Gabie Gasataya to go crazy. It was insane really!

Now we have people messaging us with their problems via the Send Message button on the Titas de Bacolod Facebook Page ( https://www.facebook.com/lastitasdebacolod/ ) .

So now, as the "Tita Mayor", I am opening up "Hey Tita!".

"Hey Tita!" is a venue for all who love Bacolod to send in their questions on life, love, and anything that you might want to share or seek advice on. We will try our best to respond in a timely manner but please remember, we are Titas. Daw mahinay, hinay na ang amon kamot mag type.

So Ladies and Gentlemen, Boys and Girls, Lovers of Bacolod, Send in your messages via our Facebook Page. ( Please do not message Titas de Bacolod Facebook Account )

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Saturday, July 28, 2012

Dear Tita : My Secret Love Child

#deartita, #heytita

Dear Tita,

When I was 18 years old, I was madly in love with my boyfriend, Joey, who was 16 years old. We had to meet in secret because our parents were very strict and they didn’t approve of our relationship.

Because we were so young, we forgot ourselves and before we knew it, I missed my period. Joey got scared when I told him and he even accused me of playing around with other men. I was very hurt with his accusations because he was the only one I gave myself to. My parents were very angry when they learned of my situation. I told my mother what Joey’s reaction was, and she warned me to never have anything to do with him again.

My mother took me to Miag-ao, Iloilo, where I stayed during my pregnancy and gave birth to my baby boy, Sammy. After a few months, we came back to Bacolod and my mother told everyone that she adopted the son of her cousin. Sammy grew up not knowing that I was his mother. One day, a friend of mine introduced me to Dave, an Australian she had met on the Internet.

Soon, Dave and I became good friends and before long, he courted me. I accepted him and we began talking about getting married. I knew I was in love with him but I was scared to tell him that I had a love child. Last December, Dave came to visit me and meet my family. He also met Sammy and took him with us when we went out. Dave asked permission from my parents to marry me and they gave their okay. Before he left for Australia, he asked me to prepare all my papers so we could get married by November this year.

I am now in a quandary. I know that I would have a happy future with Dave as he is loving and so responsible. He even bought a house for us to live in Melbourne. I want to tell him about Sammy but my mother said I better keep it a secret or it might spoil everything.

Please help me.

SO CONFUSED

Dear So Confused,

The problem here is, if Dave finds out the truth one day, he might resent that you kept it from him all this time. His trust in you will be totally shattered. Trust is a very delicate thing that should be kept unspoiled by lies and half-truths.

You should have been totally honest with him when he came to visit. He would have respected and loved you more for it. The way it is now, you will always be afraid that he might find out how you duped him.

Don’t you think you should be honest before you marry him?

TITA

Friday, January 1, 2010

Friday, January 01, 2010

A family reunion turned feud

#disgusting, #heytita

Dear Tita,

Every year, our mother always wants a big family reunion here with all the members present. I had been working abroad for a number of years and couldn't come home for the holidays. This year, I arrived from abroad loaded with gifts for everyone. My husband and two kids came along to enjoy with the rest of the family. However, when I distributed the gifts, I noticed some relatives were disappointed as they were expecting more. I could hear grumbling from some members which I tried to ignore.

Last Christmas eve, our relatives came to the house asking for money. I could only give what I could afford, which wasn't much after all the expenses for our trip and the presents I brought. Instead of appreciating what I gave, they complained that I was selfish and kuripot. When my mother heard the talks, she reacted and got mad at our relatives. This caused our relatives to quarrel with my mother and my sisters. I never expected this to happen.

My husband Peter (a Canadian), was shocked at what happened. He didn't expect it in our family. Now he wants us to leave immediately after the New Year. He says we shouldn't come back again if this happens among our relatives. I am also ashamed of what my relatives have shown. In their greed, they have given the impression that money is more important than family ties. Why can't they understand that even if we came from abroad, we are not that rich, especially with the recession? I hope our relatives realize how wrong they are.

Thank you for giving my letter your kind attention.

SAD BALIKBAYAN

Dear Sad Balikbayan

It is unfortunate that what should have been a happy occasion, turned out into a family feud. Your relatives have shown bad manners in insisting on more extravagant gifts and money from you and your husband. Peter must have been appalled at their bad behavior. I hope he doesn't think all Filipinos are like that. When things have settled down, your mother must try to have a dialog with your relatives and set them straight, especially about the worldwide recession.

I'm sure you have a lot of friends here who are more than willing to show you and your family a good time during the rest of your stay. Hopefully, they can make Peter see the true hospitality and warm nature of Negrenses.

TITA

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